Going beyond forgiveness

While forgiveness much healthier than unforgiveness, after having forgiven we can possibly go even deeper.
We can reach a state of true gratitude for what happened.
This is not something to be rushed. It does take time to do it thoroughly.
We may need to grieve. We may need to resolve and express our feelings. One step at a time.
One idea that many people find helpful in achieving this state of gratitude is that everything has advantages and disadvantages in equal measure.
If what we experienced was uncomfortable or painful, we probably grew and gained new strengths from it.
Having experienced that discomfort and pain, now could be the time to put our memory of our discomfort in the past and apply what we learned from the experience that challenged us.